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[D A L I]

Assalamu alaikum,

Jazak Allah kheri for the post ukhti. Tell her Jazak Allah khier for sharing her experience.  

It is tricky business when talking with some non-Muslims about Islam because our mentalities are sooo far spread from each other Subhana ALlah. this is why they have workshops and and studies to help those Muslims who do want to do and talk to non-Muslims about Islam to be better prepared to deal with certain topics and questions and reactions.

Sometimes we can't just jump out there and start talking because many outsiders look at us as crazy and blind so they already have their guards ups. However we must always be prepared to talk about Islam and learn all the different ways to approach different kinds of ppl.

A friend of mine right now is doing a workshop for this exact purpose to learn how to go out and talk and teach non-Muslims about Islam then she in turn will teach a few others how to do the same things and so on and so forth. It reall helps when you go through some of these workshops because you become better prepared to deal with outsiders.

I agree that we shouldn't take them as close friends because they can have a bad influence on us and cause us to get lazy in our deen so slowly we start to falter greatly in Islam. I'm so glad that your friend was able to learn her lesson sooner rather than later. It's easier to correct something at the beginning rather than at the end when you are sooo tangled up that you don't know which way is up nor down.

Fi aman Allah

[muslima2002]

Assalamu'alaykum
JazakAllah kheir sister for posting the story. I agree, sometimes you get a question you cannot answer and then it makes you wonder. To me it means that I have to find out - in a positive way. I never question wether Islam is the right religion. I know it is. But sometimes I have questions that I must know the answer to.

The other day a woman (christian) came up to me and dh and asked us if we have ever thought about a creator (I'm hijabi). We told her that we were muslims and that we stay muslims, inshAllah. She then began to ask what we believe and I told her some of the things we believe in. She then wanted to give us some paper but we said that we weren't intrested and she replied "I understand and I respect that". Now that was a positive experience. May Allah guide her to the right path, ameen.

[khadi1]

Assalamou aleikoum wa Rahmatoullah wa Barakatou,

Now you understand why the Moderators delete , as much as they can, and advise against visiting these kind of sites, the links to these sites.. because there is a real danger. I would say, let this kind of ''higher'' dawah to the real Da'ees. They are more qualified, more equipped and more knowledgeable and more ''armed'' to answer this kind of attacks..

There is one thing though, that I would like to clarify, and this is for the benefit of the non muslims who visit our site, as to be fair  :

There are categories of non muslims and we should not generalise .

1) there are the ones who will hate muslims and Islam, no matter what, no matter what proof you can give them , no matter how well behave the muslims will be, they will look for ''that'' flaw and debate, debate , debate... it is what I would call the ''dangerous'' category because they will not stop until they can prove that Islam is a fake. I avoid them. Full stop.

2) there are the ones who could not care less whether we are muslims or any other religion and cannot see the big deal...they do not hate us nor do  they  love us either..but they will raise a voice if they see wrong doings from both sides. They are the fair ones in  this dunyah .

3) there are the ones who do not hate us, but still some prejudices and doubts..if some muslims are nasty to them or mistreat them , then they could turn easily against us, by our own fault, and will generalise that ''all muslims are like this or like that''........ or if some muslims are nice to them , they'll defend them at one stage, maybe in a dinner with family where the question of Islam is raised, they may say that ''not all muslims are like that''etc..
4) and you have the ones genuinely interested and intrigued by Islam and there are the ones that eventually will convert. But if we are not careful, some muslims can be really not nice to them either, and make them go back into the third category or even, aouthoubillah, the first category..

I have heard many times ''the kuffaars'', the ''kuffaars'' etc... but as muslims are not all the same, kuffaars are not all the same either.... Only Allah can guide them and we the muslims have to give the good example of the best Islam we can.
I have appreciated the subtle answer of our sis D A L I. With this little word ''some'' she summed it all up. Jazak Allah khayran sis.