Assalamu alaykum,
I have some questions concerning relation with a future husband. I have a friend who is about to marry and we don't agree on some issues.
First of all she is seeing him without a mahram, like he his coming to her place (weither she is there or not - he has a key of her appt.). According to her there is nothing wrong in that :? . Second she took off her veil in front of him, mentionning there's a hadith saying she could do so (because she will marry him). I never heard such a thing, if it is true can you tell me the hadith about it?
I also read in the Quran that a waiting period of 3 months is necessary after a divorce if you want to remarry. During this period, is it ok to look for a new husband (or wife) and to see each other until the 3 months is over (and then marry), or is it preferable to wait after the 3 months to start looking for someone? The Quran doesn't mention what the waiting period means exactly...
Jazakoum Allahu khairan. May Allah guide us on the right path...
Salam
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How to act towards future husband
Started by
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, Dec 14 2003 12:43 AM
5 replies to this topic
#2
Posted 14 December 2003 - 11:31 AM
Salam alikom
It is not permissible for a fiancé to be alone with his fiancée
Question :
Can muslim guy and girl could go out on a date before their marriage? If they do then what would be the consequences of that? What does Islam says about going out before marriage?
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
It is not permissible for a man to be alone with a woman who is not his mahram, because that affords temptation to do immoral and evil actions. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No man is alone with a (non-mahram) woman but the Shaytaan is the third one present.” It is permitted to look at her when one has the intention of marriage, without being alone with her and in the presence of her father, brother, mother, etc., and looking at that which ordinarily appears of her, such as her face, hair, hands and feet. This is what is indicated by the Sunnah, so long as one is also free from the risk of fitnah (temptation).
Shaykh Waleed al-Firyaan (www.islam-qa.com)
It is not permissible for a fiancé to be alone with his fiancée
Question :
Can muslim guy and girl could go out on a date before their marriage? If they do then what would be the consequences of that? What does Islam says about going out before marriage?
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
It is not permissible for a man to be alone with a woman who is not his mahram, because that affords temptation to do immoral and evil actions. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No man is alone with a (non-mahram) woman but the Shaytaan is the third one present.” It is permitted to look at her when one has the intention of marriage, without being alone with her and in the presence of her father, brother, mother, etc., and looking at that which ordinarily appears of her, such as her face, hair, hands and feet. This is what is indicated by the Sunnah, so long as one is also free from the risk of fitnah (temptation).
Shaykh Waleed al-Firyaan (www.islam-qa.com)
#3
Posted 14 December 2003 - 11:33 AM
Salam alikom
Looking at other than the face and hands of the woman he wishes to propose to
Question: Is it permissible for a man to look at other than the face and hands of the woman he wishes to propose to, such as looking at her hair and her neck?
Response: That which is apparent to me, and Allaah knows best, is that this is permissible without a previous agreement. He (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) said that which means:
((If anyone’s heart settles on proposing to a woman, then he can look at that which will lead him to marry her)), [Translators note: This is the hadeeth of Jaabir ibn ‘Abdillaah (radhi-yallaahu 'anhu) who said: The Messenger of Allaah (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) said:
((If any of you has proposed to a woman, and if he is able to look at that which will lead him to marry her, then he should do so))]
As regards a previous agreement, then it is not permissible to look at more than the face and hands.
Shaykh al-Albaanee
Fataawa Muhimmah li-Nisaa. al-Ummah – Page 138
(www.fatwaa-online.com)
Looking at other than the face and hands of the woman he wishes to propose to
Question: Is it permissible for a man to look at other than the face and hands of the woman he wishes to propose to, such as looking at her hair and her neck?
Response: That which is apparent to me, and Allaah knows best, is that this is permissible without a previous agreement. He (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) said that which means:
((If anyone’s heart settles on proposing to a woman, then he can look at that which will lead him to marry her)), [Translators note: This is the hadeeth of Jaabir ibn ‘Abdillaah (radhi-yallaahu 'anhu) who said: The Messenger of Allaah (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) said:
((If any of you has proposed to a woman, and if he is able to look at that which will lead him to marry her, then he should do so))]
As regards a previous agreement, then it is not permissible to look at more than the face and hands.
Shaykh al-Albaanee
Fataawa Muhimmah li-Nisaa. al-Ummah – Page 138
(www.fatwaa-online.com)
#4
Posted 14 December 2003 - 11:43 AM
Salam alikom
Different types and periods of ‘idda (waiting period)
Question :
What are the different types of ‘ idda (waiting period) and what are their extents?
Answer :
According to the Islamic shari’a, the ‘idda is a waiting period with certain exigencies required of a woman when the appropriate condition exists—either divorce or death (of her husband). As for divorce, the ‘idda for a pregnant woman is until she delivers her child, and for one who still menstruates, it is three menstrual cycles, whereas for one who is either too young or too old to menstruate, it is three months.
As for the widow whose husband has passed away, if she is pregnant then her ‘idda is until she delivers her child; otherwise, it is four months and ten days.
Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com)
Different types and periods of ‘idda (waiting period)
Question :
What are the different types of ‘ idda (waiting period) and what are their extents?
Answer :
According to the Islamic shari’a, the ‘idda is a waiting period with certain exigencies required of a woman when the appropriate condition exists—either divorce or death (of her husband). As for divorce, the ‘idda for a pregnant woman is until she delivers her child, and for one who still menstruates, it is three menstrual cycles, whereas for one who is either too young or too old to menstruate, it is three months.
As for the widow whose husband has passed away, if she is pregnant then her ‘idda is until she delivers her child; otherwise, it is four months and ten days.
Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com)
#5
Posted 14 December 2003 - 12:38 PM
Salam alikom
Husband and wife must stay in same house during iddah
Question :
Is it permissable for the husband to move out of the home during the
iddah of his wife? For what period of time is he required to maintain her
after he pronounces divorce? If he abandons the home and does not maintain her, what does the Sharee'ah say about such actions?
Answer :
All Praise is due to Allah the Almighty.
It is mandatory that a divorced woman stay in her husband's home during
the period of iddah (specifically after the first and second divorce).
It is not permissible for her husband to force her out of the home.
The verse from the Qur'an which asserts this is al-Talaaq (65:1), (interpretation
of the meaning):
"... and do not force them out of their homes, nor shall they (themselves)
leave, except in the case where they are guilty of open illegal sexual
intercourse..."
The husband is also obliged to provide for her during this period of
iddah, as she is still under his guardianship ('isma).
It is permissible for the woman to beautify herself for her husband during
the iddah. In fact, one of the reasons for iddah is to provide a period of
reflection and contemplation, so each party may consider the consequences and review the decisions and circumstances, so as to provide a chance for them to get back together.
If the husband abandons the house or forces the wife out, then the reasons
for which Allah has ordained this period have been missed. Thus, it is incumbent upon the husband to beware of this, as he would be disobeying
a command from Allah.
There is nothing wrong with her going out of the house for visits, etc.,
with his permission, just as before her divorce.
Regarding the length of the iddah, please refer to question #31.
May Allah guide us to the right path.
Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com)
Husband and wife must stay in same house during iddah
Question :
Is it permissable for the husband to move out of the home during the
iddah of his wife? For what period of time is he required to maintain her
after he pronounces divorce? If he abandons the home and does not maintain her, what does the Sharee'ah say about such actions?
Answer :
All Praise is due to Allah the Almighty.
It is mandatory that a divorced woman stay in her husband's home during
the period of iddah (specifically after the first and second divorce).
It is not permissible for her husband to force her out of the home.
The verse from the Qur'an which asserts this is al-Talaaq (65:1), (interpretation
of the meaning):
"... and do not force them out of their homes, nor shall they (themselves)
leave, except in the case where they are guilty of open illegal sexual
intercourse..."
The husband is also obliged to provide for her during this period of
iddah, as she is still under his guardianship ('isma).
It is permissible for the woman to beautify herself for her husband during
the iddah. In fact, one of the reasons for iddah is to provide a period of
reflection and contemplation, so each party may consider the consequences and review the decisions and circumstances, so as to provide a chance for them to get back together.
If the husband abandons the house or forces the wife out, then the reasons
for which Allah has ordained this period have been missed. Thus, it is incumbent upon the husband to beware of this, as he would be disobeying
a command from Allah.
There is nothing wrong with her going out of the house for visits, etc.,
with his permission, just as before her divorce.
Regarding the length of the iddah, please refer to question #31.
May Allah guide us to the right path.
Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com)
#6
Posted 23 December 2003 - 01:25 PM
Salam alikom
It is haraam to propose marriage to a women whilst she is still in ‘iddah. As mentioned in Question #9463 in islam-qa as answer to the second Question.
Take care
Amira
It is haraam to propose marriage to a women whilst she is still in ‘iddah. As mentioned in Question #9463 in islam-qa as answer to the second Question.
Take care
Amira
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