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Posted 15 October 2004 - 11:12 PM

AA-
I was wondering if you have an tips for weddings.
should i have it as simplest as possible? or what is preferred?
I was thinking to have a nice small islamic wedding. I would also like to use nasheeds instead of music cuz i dont listen to music..
do u guys have any suggestions..
how should i pick an islamic dress...
im really modest.. and dont like showing too much of my body( like I prefer my arms being covered ) .. so do yuo have any comments or ideas about a wedding dress?
Any suggestions would be ppreciated..

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Posted 03 November 2004 - 06:37 AM

salaam sister I hope the wedding planning is going good

It's upto you on what kind of wedding you feel comfortable in and yea I think it's nice to play nasheeds that way you can feel comfortable with everything taking place.
So I hope everything is going well with you
This is a late reply too but I just saw this today so take care
salaam

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Posted 03 November 2004 - 08:42 PM

Asalamu alakium,

   I would say to keep your wedding simple.. These days people waste so much money on elborate weddings.. Astughfillah.. Make it seperate.. men in a room, women in another.. Throw some flowers here and there, candles everywhere.. Simple, but classy...

Its the sunnah to feed them.. So do, but not like lobster and caviar... Don't laugh i've seen it....

The children will end up with the women, so play some silly games with them, with silly little prizes, like candies and such... The women will naturally end up playing with them which will be fun... Also you have a how well do you know the bride quiz, with gag prizes... hehe

For your dress.. Whatever your comfortable in.. If it is a seperate wedding, then you can get a beautiful dress thats still modest, like flowy at the bottom, and silky sleeves that are just too long in a fashionable way.. I have an exact pic in my mind but, i dont know how to link to my mind..

I agree about the anasheed, I would suggest Shaheed Alkawn.. Hes voice only, no instruments... He does rap and r&b so the brothers will like him, but also poppy sort of stuff, so hes good for everyone... He sings in english.. You can hear him here:

http://www.meem.info/mediac/400_0/media/Sw...eet_Release.wma

Also, If you want arabic, I suggest mishary rasheed alfasy... he sings those old arab poems about islam.. Too cool..

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Posted 03 November 2004 - 10:49 PM

Yaaaaaayyy..lolz..i reeeeeeeeelyyy luv weddings..i hope yours is inshallah going well biggrin.gif  biggrin.gif ...do you know my friend..well when she got married..she like work a really beautiful wdding dress mashallah and there was like a thing to cover her neck and hair..and she looked bootyful..lo...and also you could obviously have it segrigated(seperate men from women)lol..jus makin sure u knw da meanin..loolz..sowwy..lol..nyways you could doo soo much...sorry im jus gettin relly exited..im obsessd with gettin married..nyway hope urs goes well inshallah..jus make sure its like relly simple coz the more somple it is the more blessings u will get..ill preay that you and your husband will have a long and good life together inshallah..xXXx

Sabrina..xXx

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Posted 03 November 2004 - 10:49 PM

Yaaaaaayyy..lolz..i reeeeeeeeelyyy luv weddings..i hope yours is inshallah going well biggrin.gif  biggrin.gif ...do you know my friend..well when she got married..she like work a really beautiful wdding dress mashallah and there was like a thing to cover her neck and hair..and she looked bootyful..lo...and also you could obviously have it segrigated(seperate men from women)lol..jus makin sure u knw da meanin..loolz..sowwy..lol..nyways you could doo soo much...sorry im jus gettin relly exited..im obsessd with gettin married..nyway hope urs goes well inshallah..jus make sure its like relly simple coz the more somple it is the more blessings u will get..ill preay that you and your husband will have a long and good life together inshallah..xXXx

Sabrina..xXx

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Posted 04 November 2004 - 07:50 AM

Salam Alaikum My Dear Sister;

Firstly, congratulations on your wedding!

I live in a culture where people regard wedding as a very important and sacred part of life. It is seen as a "Once in a lifetime" ceremony and since the wedding involve ALL the family members of BOTH bride and grooms side (Parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents, near relatives, far relatives, then friends of BOTH sides of families), thus you can imagine how "grand" the ceremony will be!

You can serve something simple like just bread and such, or sweets (but Ive never been to weddings with such simple servings) or slaughter a lamb and serve the dish with beryani, etc. It all depends on your niyyah. In my culture, the lavish food is not for showing off, but to show how happy the host is for their daughter's/son's weddings that they want to make sure their guests get the best of food. In fact, weddings in my culture has been a ceremony where uninvited people can come and have "free lunch" or "free dinner".

I guess it all depends on your niyyah and also your budget. Serving everybody beryani in United States or UK or Canada may be way TOO expensive and thus appear lavish. However, in eastern countries traditional food such as beryani is pretty cheap where almost everyone can afford it (are you following me?).

What is really lavish to me though, is having your wedding in hotel ballrooms.

Talking about food preparation, what people usually do is all the family members gather together and prepare the meals. So if you want beryani, all the family members will cook beryani together. Also, the chores can be divided. Usually what we do is the men's side will give some money to the women;s side and the women will use the money to prepare the food, etc.

As for the music or islamic music, nasheed is a good idea. I have some other suggestions though. In some cultures, they will make majlis khatm quran for both the bride and groom. This means, the bride and groom will khatm quran on their wedding day(They will read the whole quran on their own then read the last few ayahs on their wedding day). After that, there will be a group of old men sit in a group and sing qaseedah followed by a group of youngsters singing nasheed, congratulating the couples and making salawah while they play the islamic hand drums. Then after that, you can switch on nasheed while people eat.

But talking about preferrence, I'd rather there is no nasheed or loud music on because usually guests who come wants to talk to each other etc, and those music/nasheed can be quite distracting.

[b]On another note, you can also make a very simple wedding like a garden wedding. What you do is, spread a few nice carpets on the grass (you can borrow from others) and then put some food on a nice table nearby. One nice big carpet for brothers, one for sisters, and perhaps one small cute one for the bride and groom.

As for clothes, there are many options of course. But I'll come back later for more details on that in sha Allah.

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Posted 04 November 2004 - 08:41 AM

Assalamu Aalikum

I encourage you to read this before your marriage  :wink:   :arrow:

[align=center:764a79b5b2]The Etiquettes Of Marriage And Wedding
    by Shaykh Muhammad Nâsir ad-Dîn al-Albânî
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The Author’s Introduction
All praise is due to Allâh, the One who said in the clear verses of His Book:
  "And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect".[al-Rûm 30:21]    


May the prayers and peace of Allâh be upon His Prophet Muhammad, the one who said in an authenticated hadîth :

  "Marry the loving and fertile, for I will compete with the other Prophets with the number of my followers on the Day of Qiyama". [Ahmad and at-Tabârani with hasan isnâd. And declared sahîh from Anas by Ibn Hibbân. And it has witnesses which will be mentioned in Question 19]  


After this opening: There are in Islâm, certain etiquettes upon anyone who marries and wishes to consummate his marriage with his wife. Most Muslims today, even those who exert themselves in Islamic worship, have either neglected or become totally ignorant of these Islamic etiquettes. Therefore, I decided to write this beneficial treatise clearly explaining these issues on the occasion of marriage of someone dear to me. I hope that it will be an aid to him and to other believing brothers in carrying out what the Chief of the Messengers has ordained on the authority of the Lord of the Worlds. I have followed that by pointing out certain issues important to every one who marries, and with which many wives in particular have been tested.

I ask Allâh Most High to bring about some benefit from this treatise, and to accept this work solely for His glorious countenance. Surely, He is the Righteous, the Merciful.

It should be known that there are many etiquettes in the area of marriage. All that I am concerned with here in this quickly compiled work is that which is authenticated of the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad, that which is irreproachable from the standpoint of its chain of narration and upon which no doubt can be cast in terms of its constructions and meanings. In this way, whoever reads and follows this information will be on a clearly established basis in religion, and will have full confidence in the source and validity of his acitons. I hope for him that Allâh will put the final seal of felicity on his life, in reward for beginning his married life with the following of the sunnah, and to make for him among His slaves whose statement He has described in the Qur’ân saying: And those who pray,

  "Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous." [al-Furqân 25:74]    


The final disposition of things is for those of pious practise, as the Lord of the Worlds said:

  As to the Righteous, they shall be amidst (cool) shades and springs (of water). And (they shall have) fruits, - all they desire. "Eat ye and drink ye to your heart's content: for that ye worked (righteousness)." Thus do We certainly reward the Doers of Good. [al-Mursalât 77:41-44]    

The following then, are those etiquettes:


Part 1 : Kindness toward your wife when you wish to enter into her
Part 2 : Placing your hands on your wife's head and praying for her
Part 3 : The praying of husband and wife together
Part 4 : What to say at the time of making Love
Part 5 : How he should come to her
Part 6 : The Prohibition of Sodomy
Part 7 : Making Wudhû’ between 2 acts with one's wife
Part 8 : Bathing is preferable
Part 9 : The Bathing of Husband and Wife together
Part 10 : Making Wudhû’ after Sex and before Sleeping
Part 11 : The Ruling of this Wudhû’
Part 12 : Making Tayammum in a state of Janaba instead of Wudhû’
Part 13 : Bathing before Sleeping is Perferable
Part 14 : The Prohibition of sex when She is Menstruating
Part 15 : The Penitence of One who Has Sex during Menses
Part 16 : What is Permissible when She is on her Periods
Part 17 : When is it Allowed to resume Sexual Activity after Menses?
Part 18 : The Lawfulness of Coitus Interruptus
Part 19 : It is Preferrable not to Practice Coitus Interruptus.
Part 20 : What the two Spouses should Intend with their Marriage
Part 21 : What he should do the Morning After His Wedding Night
Part 22 : The House must have a Place for Bathing
Part 23 : The Prohibition of Spreading Bedroom Secrets
Part 24 : The Obligation of a Wedding Feast
Part 25 : The Sunnah of the Wedding Feast
Part 26 : Wedding Feasts can be give with Other than Meat
Part 27 : Participation of the Wealthy in the Feast with their Wealth

For the full article click here  :arrow:  http://islaam.net/main/display.php?part=fu...tegory=7&id=891

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Posted 04 November 2004 - 10:57 AM

Salam Alaikum Sisters;

What do you think of these dresses?   :?:   :idea:

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http://store1.yimg.c...us_1798_1288031

http://www.islamicfashioncenter.com/store/...od=so188&cat=13

http://www.alhediya.com/weddingdresses.html

http://www.muslimdesigns.com/product.asp?category=14

http://www.theislamicmarketplace.com/produ....php?cat=9&pg=2

My suggestion is you can either buy your dress online (you can easily get a nice wedding dress for a budget of below $100 in sha Allah), or boutiques (which usually would be expensive) or you buy cloth and have it tailored according to your size and taste.




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