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This was posted on another forum, but I liked it so much I wanted to share it here:
Seventy Excuses and More...
by Iman Bint Johari
Now that the time for my departure to Pakistan is drawing close, I find myself taking stock of the people here in Singapore who have made a big difference to me.
One of them is someone I will call Huda. When I first met her, I was a brash and hot-headed youth whose impulsive ways and tongue often landed myself and others in difficult situations. Huda was always calm and collected. I have not to this day, seen her lose her temper or speak ill of others unless justice demanded that she do so.
I remember, once, a group of us were annoyed with a colleague. Our discussion first started out with the intention of trying to rectify a problem that we suspected this person had caused, but shaytan took over and it descended into gheebah (backbiting). This person's character was scrutinised and criticised all in the name of correcting a wrong. Huda grew silent as the conversation gained vicious momentum.
A few minutes later, we paused for salat ul Maghrib. Huda, I noticed, spent a longer time than usual after her prayer, making du`aa and dhikr. Then she rose and looked at the rest of us. She looked solemn and her voice was almost hushed when she spoke.
"You know," she said gravely, "No one is ever really a hundred per cent bad. None of us are perfect so when we speak about others we should remember the person's good qualities as well and not cut him up to pieces."
We were overcome with shame and regret. We had felt ever so righteous but what had we really accomplished? We had done nothing but eaten the flesh of a fellow Muslim ... may Allah forgive us, ameen.
Huda had taught me about the simple but often forgotten principle of giving others the benefit of the doubt.
Allah `azza wa jall says [translation]: “O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” [Al-Hujurat 49:12]
Here we are commanded to avoid suspicion. We are to think well of our fellow Muslims as the tradition goes: "If you see something you do not like in your brother, try to find from one to seventy excuses for him. If you cannot find an excuse, say, 'There might be an excuse but I do not know it.'"
Indeed, the religion is naseehah (sincere advice). Allah has told us, “The believers, men and women, are Awliyaa’ (helpers, supporters, friends, protectors) of one another; they enjoin (on the people) Al-Ma‘roof and forbid (people) from Al-Munkar.” [at-Tawbah 9:71]
Also, “By Al-`Asr (the time). Verily, man is in loss, except those who believe and do righteous good deeds, and recommend one another to the truth and recommend one another to patience.” [al-`Asr 103:1-3]
Many of us, when we see a wrong, we do our best to correct it and if we see a fellow Muslim erring, we try to bring him back to the right and urge him to repent. However, we sometimes forget that the way of a righteous Muslim is that he hides the sins of others. We should always bear in mind that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam said: “Whoever covers a Muslim's (sins), Allah will cover him (his sins) in this world and in the Hereafter.” [Muslim] Are we so faultless that we can do away with this?
I've never forgotten Huda's words - may Allah reward her with the best ameen - and was reminded of her advice to have a good opinion when I read this narration last weekend:
Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim transmitted in their own Saheeh the hadeeth narrated by Abu Hurayrah radhiallahu `anhu that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam said, “`Isa `alayhis salaam, the son of Maryam, saw a man stealing and asked him, ‘Did you steal?’ He said, 'No, by Allah besides Whom there is no other god.' So `Isa `alayhis salaam said, ‘I believe in Allah and contradict my eyes.’”
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Seventy Excuses
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Posted 16 January 2007 - 08:22 PM
Assalamu alaikum.
Good post sister. I am borrowing that to put on my website:)
Good post sister. I am borrowing that to put on my website:)
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Posted 17 January 2007 - 12:31 AM
As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatu Allah wabarakatuh
mashaAllah. nice reminder, jazaki Allah khair
also, i never knew this, subhanAllah!
Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim transmitted in their own Saheeh the hadeeth narrated by Abu Hurayrah radhiallahu `anhu that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam said, “`Isa `alayhis salaam, the son of Maryam, saw a man stealing and asked him, ‘Did you steal?’ He said, 'No, by Allah besides Whom there is no other god.' So `Isa `alayhis salaam said, ‘I believe in Allah and contradict my eyes.’”
Someone have the tafsir of that hadith? some extra good deeds on your scales insha Allah for whoever finds it
Zahra
mashaAllah. nice reminder, jazaki Allah khair
also, i never knew this, subhanAllah!
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Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim transmitted in their own Saheeh the hadeeth narrated by Abu Hurayrah radhiallahu `anhu that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam said, “`Isa `alayhis salaam, the son of Maryam, saw a man stealing and asked him, ‘Did you steal?’ He said, 'No, by Allah besides Whom there is no other god.' So `Isa `alayhis salaam said, ‘I believe in Allah and contradict my eyes.’”
Someone have the tafsir of that hadith? some extra good deeds on your scales insha Allah for whoever finds it
Zahra
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Posted 17 January 2007 - 01:27 AM
Assalamou aleikoum wa rahmatoullah wa barakatou,
Barakallahu feekee dear sis Poise. A good reminder.
I am also wondering, is there exactly a hadith mentioning we should look for 70 excuses or is it just good manners ? because believe me, i have read this many times, but I have never been able to locate a sound hadith. Maybe it is not in the Saheehain, but many in Abu Dawood or at- Thirmidhi ?
oh, I would really love the source.... pleaaaaaaaaaaaaaaase ???
Barakallahu feekee dear sis Poise. A good reminder.
I am also wondering, is there exactly a hadith mentioning we should look for 70 excuses or is it just good manners ? because believe me, i have read this many times, but I have never been able to locate a sound hadith. Maybe it is not in the Saheehain, but many in Abu Dawood or at- Thirmidhi ?
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Here we are commanded to avoid suspicion. We are to think well of our fellow Muslims as the tradition goes: "If you see something you do not like in your brother, try to find from one to seventy excuses for him. If you cannot find an excuse, say, 'There might be an excuse but I do not know it.'"
oh, I would really love the source.... pleaaaaaaaaaaaaaaase ???
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Posted 17 January 2007 - 11:18 AM
As-Salaamu alaikum
Jazaki Allahu khairan for the article dear sister Poise.
Dear sis Khadi jazaki Allahu khairan for the question as I have always wanted the daleel for this too. I found this in IslamWeb alhamdulilah :
Islam Web
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Islamweb Fatwas
Fatwa Title
: Seek for your brother seventy excuses
Fatwa No.
: 10257
Fatwa Date
: 20 Safar 1427
Question:
Is “Seek for your brother seventy excuses” a Prophetic narration, and if so what is the full text of the narration and its chain of narrators?
Fatwa:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger, may Allaah exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
This is not a Prophetic narration; rather it is the statement of Ja’far Ibn Ahmad, may Allaah have mercy on him. Al-Bayhaqi, may Allaah have mercy on him, reported that Ja’far Ibn Ahmad, may Allaah have mercy on him, said: 'If you hear anything you do not like about your brother, then seek one excuse for him to seventy excuses, if you find any then all perfect praise be to Allaah, otherwise say 'It might be that he has an excuse which I do not know about.' Ibn ‘Asaakir, may Allaah have mercy on him, reported this from Muhammad Ibn Sireen, may Allaah have mercy on him, whose wording [Ibn Sireen’s] is: 'If you hear anything about your brother, then seek an excuse for him, if you do not find any then say 'It might be that he has an excuse.'
Allaah Knows best.
Answerer: Fatwa center supervised by Dr. Abdullah Al-faqih
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http://www.islamweb.net/ver2/Fatwa/ShowFat...;Option=FatwaId
Alhamdulilah.
WaSalaamu alaikum,
Om-AbdulRahman.
Jazaki Allahu khairan for the article dear sister Poise.
Dear sis Khadi jazaki Allahu khairan for the question as I have always wanted the daleel for this too. I found this in IslamWeb alhamdulilah :
Islam Web
www.islamweb.net
Islamweb Fatwas
Fatwa Title
: Seek for your brother seventy excuses
Fatwa No.
: 10257
Fatwa Date
: 20 Safar 1427
Question:
Is “Seek for your brother seventy excuses” a Prophetic narration, and if so what is the full text of the narration and its chain of narrators?
Fatwa:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger, may Allaah exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
This is not a Prophetic narration; rather it is the statement of Ja’far Ibn Ahmad, may Allaah have mercy on him. Al-Bayhaqi, may Allaah have mercy on him, reported that Ja’far Ibn Ahmad, may Allaah have mercy on him, said: 'If you hear anything you do not like about your brother, then seek one excuse for him to seventy excuses, if you find any then all perfect praise be to Allaah, otherwise say 'It might be that he has an excuse which I do not know about.' Ibn ‘Asaakir, may Allaah have mercy on him, reported this from Muhammad Ibn Sireen, may Allaah have mercy on him, whose wording [Ibn Sireen’s] is: 'If you hear anything about your brother, then seek an excuse for him, if you do not find any then say 'It might be that he has an excuse.'
Allaah Knows best.
Answerer: Fatwa center supervised by Dr. Abdullah Al-faqih
www.islamweb.net
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http://www.islamweb.net/ver2/Fatwa/ShowFat...;Option=FatwaId
Alhamdulilah.
WaSalaamu alaikum,
Om-AbdulRahman.
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Posted 18 January 2007 - 12:37 AM
Assalamou aleikoum wa Rahmatoullah wa barakatou,
Barakallahu feekee dear sis Om-A. I have wanted to know that for years.
May Allah reward you all in good. ameen.
Barakallahu feekee dear sis Om-A. I have wanted to know that for years.
May Allah reward you all in good. ameen.
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