asalamu a'laykum
a sister here rec'd this board to me to get help.
i am having a real rough ramadan, like my iman is so low. the first two weeks very easy for me to complete my fast. but it seems like Allah as turned off the mercy fountain to me. i am struggling very much. i have not broken my fast, but i have low will power to do it and i struggle with salah. i do not want to feel like this, but its almost like i cannot help it. its like i have no motivation to keep my fast, alhumduillah an ounce of fear is left in me because i have not violated it. i am ready for ramadan to be over, astagfirullah.i was doing so well and its like one day i just did not care anymore, astagfirullah. i feel like feeling like this is a sin upon me. i feel the pressure is too much. the shaytaan can not be locked up if i am feeling this way, right? or is this all the evil inside of me? i keep thinking to myself if i break my fast it won't send me to hell if i repent and not do it anymore. but the guilt of me eating will be too much.
what should i do?
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Posted 01 November 2004 - 04:39 PM
Salam alaikum sister,
This is your nefs sister.
The battle of the nefs is a lifetime one.
Why do you think the fasting is the problem?
Keep fasting inshallah.
Now is it that your having a hard time with the fasting???
Are you having problems in your home or at school or work?
This is your nefs sister.
The battle of the nefs is a lifetime one.
Why do you think the fasting is the problem?
Keep fasting inshallah.
Now is it that your having a hard time with the fasting???
Are you having problems in your home or at school or work?
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Posted 01 November 2004 - 04:50 PM
sister i am hungry and i want to eat. like before i would be hungry and wanted to eat but i would think of pleasing Allah and that would help me through the rest of day and it would be so easy and i would not feel hungry anymore. now i do not feel that, and really the only thing keeping me from breaking my fast is plain fear not the good feeling i had before. this has effected my school work and other aspects of my life. like this weekend i did not do anything constructive. i did read my juiz that is it but i laid in the bed all day and only really got up to make salah which was very difficult for me. is this normal? it is like the feeling of guilt for not being motivated is taking over other aspects of my life. i sorta feel like i have failed for not having this month be the best like it supposed to be.
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Posted 01 November 2004 - 05:02 PM
Sister salaam ou lkoum
Firstly i just want you to realise that you must be doing something right because you have acknowledge you weakness.
I agree with sister Badreya it your nafss and you iman it goes up and down like a rollarcoaster believe you me. Just try to occupy yourself with other things inshallah school study work whatever. Just remmber sister ramadan isnt just about abstaining from food its about learning to excersice your willpower. So naturally it should be slightly difficult because it is a test. Sister dont be expecting any overnight miracles but try to involve yours elf in more ibdaah. Inshaalh you should try to go Tarweeh(ramadan prayer after ishaa) in your local mosque jus try to involove yourself in rightous activities and inshaalh you will see a differance. sister talk to Allah tell him how your feeling Allah WILL help you inshaalh.
But like i said try to avoid thinking about food its all in your mind. Im hungry im hungry its just your mind playing games with you inshaalh.
Sister you are in mu duaas
Good luck and remember Allah and you will be fine
As salam ou Lkoum
Sister nadia
Firstly i just want you to realise that you must be doing something right because you have acknowledge you weakness.
I agree with sister Badreya it your nafss and you iman it goes up and down like a rollarcoaster believe you me. Just try to occupy yourself with other things inshallah school study work whatever. Just remmber sister ramadan isnt just about abstaining from food its about learning to excersice your willpower. So naturally it should be slightly difficult because it is a test. Sister dont be expecting any overnight miracles but try to involve yours elf in more ibdaah. Inshaalh you should try to go Tarweeh(ramadan prayer after ishaa) in your local mosque jus try to involove yourself in rightous activities and inshaalh you will see a differance. sister talk to Allah tell him how your feeling Allah WILL help you inshaalh.
But like i said try to avoid thinking about food its all in your mind. Im hungry im hungry its just your mind playing games with you inshaalh.
Sister you are in mu duaas
Good luck and remember Allah and you will be fine
As salam ou Lkoum
Sister nadia
#5
Posted 01 November 2004 - 05:17 PM
Salam alaikum
Sister the month is not over!!!!
Start today. Make dua'a sister for Allah to give you strength.
You will not starve sister.
Make sure you drink and eat at night. Don't over eat.
Be strong yalla!
BE BRAVE!
Sister the month is not over!!!!
Start today. Make dua'a sister for Allah to give you strength.
You will not starve sister.
Make sure you drink and eat at night. Don't over eat.
Be strong yalla!
BE BRAVE!
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Posted 02 November 2004 - 06:02 AM
Assalamu Alaikum
Sorry about the delay, I wanted to answer yesterday but didn't come back on the forum :wink:
We are over half way through the month of Ramadhan, MashaAllah you have made already and kept 17/18 (depending on your location) fasts. There is no point to stop fasting now, the moth is nearly over. Allah knows what is in your heart and if you still persevere with the fasting for His sake, even though you are struggling you will InshaAllah be rewarded for that :wink: ... you have been having this inner argument with yourself every day sister, and everyday the stronger side has won, Alhamdilullah!
Make abundant dua to Allah especially at todays Iftar time as we are told that the dua's of a fasting person whilst breaking hai/her fast at Iftar are among those dua that are answered.
Keep your mind busy in the day, don't just sit around with nothing to occupy your time.
Set yourself little goals throughout the day... I gave this advice on another thread and I need to pray Fajr right now so no time to retype it (sorry, I am being lazy :oops: )
There are some helpful tips and advice on this thread... there are other sisters struggling too, you are not alone in this :wink: http://sisters.islamway.com/modules.php?na...&highlight=fast
InshaAllah I will dig out some things for you to read or listen to about the importance of the Pillar of Islam :wink:
In the meantime here is one to get you going:
The Goals of fasting
Sarah
Sorry about the delay, I wanted to answer yesterday but didn't come back on the forum :wink:
We are over half way through the month of Ramadhan, MashaAllah you have made already and kept 17/18 (depending on your location) fasts. There is no point to stop fasting now, the moth is nearly over. Allah knows what is in your heart and if you still persevere with the fasting for His sake, even though you are struggling you will InshaAllah be rewarded for that :wink: ... you have been having this inner argument with yourself every day sister, and everyday the stronger side has won, Alhamdilullah!
Make abundant dua to Allah especially at todays Iftar time as we are told that the dua's of a fasting person whilst breaking hai/her fast at Iftar are among those dua that are answered.
Keep your mind busy in the day, don't just sit around with nothing to occupy your time.
Set yourself little goals throughout the day... I gave this advice on another thread and I need to pray Fajr right now so no time to retype it (sorry, I am being lazy :oops: )
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Why not try and set yourself milestones? My nine year old is fasting full time this year MashaAllah. He has set himself milestones like when he begins to feel hungry at school because of the smells of food coming from the kitchens, he says to himself 2I have already gone 7 hours without food so what is the point of giving up now?". he pushes himself along thoroughout the day doing this "I am half way through my fasts now, so I really don't want to give up." The next stage is about 2 hours before we break fast and he is beginning to really feel his hunger then.... this is the time when he starts the iftar countdown I can eat agin in 2 hours... I can eat agiain in 1 and a quarter hours and so on.....
I am really proud of you sister for striving so hard to overcome things that are bothering you Well done, keep it up and InshaAllah it will get easier.
I am really proud of you sister for striving so hard to overcome things that are bothering you Well done, keep it up and InshaAllah it will get easier.
There are some helpful tips and advice on this thread... there are other sisters struggling too, you are not alone in this :wink: http://sisters.islamway.com/modules.php?na...&highlight=fast
InshaAllah I will dig out some things for you to read or listen to about the importance of the Pillar of Islam :wink:
In the meantime here is one to get you going:
The Goals of fasting
Sarah
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Posted 02 November 2004 - 06:07 PM
Assalamoalakum sister,
I can understand and relate to your problem.Take a piece o paper and write down all negative feelings bothering you. Be really open.I believe its not hunger or thirst which is driving you crazy.Recite Quran and listen to surahalBaqra and ayatalkursi.Beat those desires with more freshened power from Allah SWT. Making dua for you
I can understand and relate to your problem.Take a piece o paper and write down all negative feelings bothering you. Be really open.I believe its not hunger or thirst which is driving you crazy.Recite Quran and listen to surahalBaqra and ayatalkursi.Beat those desires with more freshened power from Allah SWT. Making dua for you
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Posted 04 November 2004 - 04:40 AM
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Assalamu Alaikum
Sorry about the delay, I wanted to answer yesterday but didn't come back on the forum :wink:
Sarah
Sorry about the delay, I wanted to answer yesterday but didn't come back on the forum :wink:
Sarah
Assalamou aleikoum wa Rahmatoullah wa Barakatou,
tut tut tut..... dear sis Moderator, aren't we getting a bit sloppy, playing truant ????? :mrgreen: :mrgreen:
p.s. sowwwy, sis Sarah, I just could not resist this one.. please forgive me :wink: :wink: :wink:
And sorry sis Muslimah80, i do not have any practical advice but you are in my duas....take care..
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Posted 04 November 2004 - 06:14 AM
Assalamu Alaikum
A rap on your keyboard for you cheekiness sister khadi
Of course I forgive you..... :mrgreen: just don't do it again :wink:
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How are your fasts going now sister muslimah80? InshaAllah they are getting easier for you now... only 10 more to go :wink:
Sarah
A rap on your keyboard for you cheekiness sister khadi
Of course I forgive you..... :mrgreen: just don't do it again :wink:
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How are your fasts going now sister muslimah80? InshaAllah they are getting easier for you now... only 10 more to go :wink:
Sarah
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Posted 04 November 2004 - 08:32 PM
asalamu a'laykum
thanks your advice sisters. i read it many times. when i left the house that day i felt much better .seeing the sun and pondering on Allah's creation made me feel better. the fasting is much better now, but im still not motivated to do salah i just do it but it don't feel the same. :cry:
thanks your advice sisters. i read it many times. when i left the house that day i felt much better
.seeing the sun and pondering on Allah's creation made me feel better. the fasting is much better now, but im still not motivated to do salah i just do it but it don't feel the same. :cry:
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Posted 09 November 2004 - 07:12 AM
Salam!
Sister try going to your mosque. Going to a mosque should increase your iman and give you kushoo. Seeing everybody pray, hearing the adhan, hearing the Shaykh recite the Quran, everybody praying together to
one god, Allah.
May Allah help us all!
Sister try going to your mosque. Going to a mosque should increase your iman and give you kushoo. Seeing everybody pray, hearing the adhan, hearing the Shaykh recite the Quran, everybody praying together to
one god, Allah.
May Allah help us all!
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