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Posted 22 October 2004 - 06:09 PM

Hello!
I am a 32 year old non Muslim who has been drawn to Islam the last year or so. Most of my exposure to Islam has been via reading things on the internet (at websites such as this one) and asking the very few Muslims that I know.  I feel that I am ready to accept Islam as the only true religion and make that important step in my life to dedicate it to Allah.  However, I am afraid of rejection...not from my family or from the outside world, but from the Muslims in my community (which are not many).  I have a child and I am NOT married.  I want to go to mosque and meet and talk with other sisters, but I am afraid that they will look down on me because of my situation.  I am looking to connect and talk with other new Muslim sisters who have similar situations as myself.  Can anyone offer any help?

p.s.  By the way, I am of Puerto Rican heritage and live in Arizona.

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Posted 22 October 2004 - 06:22 PM

Hello Lorena

[marq=right:03e32ada56]WELCOME to Islamway sisters

First off please be assured we will not reject you  :wink:  if you have any questions, anything at all please do feel free to ask  tongue.gif

In my experience it is rare that a persons family completely disowns them beyond reconcilliation upon their acceptance of Islam. You will find that your family, especially as you have a child already will keep the ties there.... I can't promise things won't be strained for a while, but more often they get over it  laugh.gif

The Muslim community shouldn't look down upon you at all, in fact they should relish the opportunity to teach not one but 2 people about Islam.
NO-ONE has the right to judge you and InshaAllah they won't, for as soon as you take the shahadah (declaration of faith) and become a Muslim any previous misdemeanors are wiped away... you are newborn with a clean sheet, as it were  laugh.gif  :wink:
Look forward to reading more from you soon.

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Posted 22 October 2004 - 08:35 PM

Asalaam aliakum, dear Lorena. biggrin.gif
Welcome to Islamway!!

I am so happy that you joined us, and also really happy and blessed a lot that you are interested in Islam!!
biggrin.gif Again, Welcome to Islamway! biggrin.gif

Please do not ever worry about other Muslims thinking about you in a bad way, because of your situation. No way! :wink:

No Muslims should think others like that, and we won't! :wink: If some did, it's their mistakes, and you need not to worry about what they think AT ALL!! :wink:

You are interested in Islam, and we are and people at the masjid are HAPPY and BLESSED to have you there, not the other wayat all!

Like sis sarah wrote, if you become a Muslim, you will be like a new born, free from any previous sins, and so pure,,, Mashah Allah,,,  :wink: so there is no way that people will think of you or look at you in any bad ways.

So, pls do not shy away and visit your near masjid! and if you did, pls let us know how it went, in shah Allah!

Again, I am so happy that you visited us on Islamway. :wink:

Asalaam aliakum.
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Posted 23 October 2004 - 05:29 AM

asalamu alaikum,

you should not care about what has happened in the past and it is no ones business what happened in the past. Once you embrace Islam and say the shahada your past should not be mentioned because Allah is the only one that judges us and in secere Shahada the sins are forgiven..Anyways you should never be be shy or ashamed of the child that you have. She is from Allah and does not have any sin because she is innocent (not like in the christian concept) and sweet.

If the mosque in which you attend is on the Sunnah of Our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) you will Insha-Allah be accept with open arms. There are many, many mosques in the united states and you can go to many before choosing the one you would like to attend.

But I know none of us on this forum will think anything about your past and you are accepted here. Welcome
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Posted 23 October 2004 - 01:23 PM

Peace Lorena,

That is so wonderful you know you have found the truth and that you want to practice Islam.  Do not worry about what everyone is going to think... you are mostly going to meet wonderful Muslims that will not judge you for your past.  And if you meet any who do judge you, then always know that your past is forgiven when you say Shahada from your heart!!

fi aman Allah,

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Posted 23 October 2004 - 01:36 PM

Assalamu alaikum sisters,

Dear Lorena,

Bienvenida (welcome) a Islamway sisters!!! Reading your message made me smile. biggrin.gif I'm glad to hear that you are ready to accept Islam into your life, alhamdulilah(all thanks be to God). Inshallah(God-willing) you will say your shahada soon!

As for the people at the masjid, don't worry about them. I'm sure that they will accept you with open arms. Don't be scared Allah will take care of all your needs and will make everything easy for you. :wink: And like many sisters already mentioned when you say the shahada you become a new creation and everything from your past stays there, nothing carries over into your new life as a Muslimah. Allah gives you the chance to start fresh and so any sin from your past should not even be a factor in your present nor in your future.

May Allah continue to guide you and help you in all your affairs, ameen.

Hope to read more from you soon so that we can get to know each other better and inshallah(God-willing) even as sisters.

P.S I'm Cuban :wink: (your country's twin :wink: )


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Posted 23 October 2004 - 07:03 PM

Asalaamu Alaiykum Sisters,

Greetings Lorena,

I am a new revert to Islam.  biggrin.gif  I also live in Arizona.  laugh.gif

If you are in the Phoenix area, I would love to go to the masjid with you.  Also, there is a class at the masjid that I'm taking now that you might be interested in: Foundations of Islam.

Let me know.

Peace,
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Posted 24 October 2004 - 02:16 PM

As-salaam Alaikum.  Lorena my family is from Arizona what part are you in?

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Posted 26 October 2004 - 02:32 PM

Thank you so much sisters!

For all your positive responses.  I came to work this morning and read them and was brought to tears as I never in my life thought that I would feel such sisterhood since I myself do not have blood sisters.  

I know that Allah has blessed me with finding this site and look forward to developing long lasting friendship with women who want to serve Allah in the best way that we can.  I do not feel afraid to go to the mosque now, no matter what happens.  I know that I am doing the best thing for myself and my son in declaring our faith to Allah and who cares what anyone else thinks?!  I love Allah, I love my son (he is 4 years old) and
no one can pass judgement on me except Allah.

Thank you again  :wink: Please continue to write!

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Posted 26 October 2004 - 02:34 PM

I am living in Gilbert, a small suburb of East Valley Phoenix.

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Posted 26 October 2004 - 04:12 PM

Assalamu alaikum sisters,

Lorena,

alhamdulilah that we were all able to help you get over your fear of going to the masjid. now that Allah has taken you past that hurdle....when are you going to say your shahada? :?  just curious. :wink:

Well inshallah things will continue to go well for you. fi amanullah.


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Posted 30 October 2004 - 01:02 AM

[salam, i read what u have said and feel really sad for u, i can understand where u r coming from, i have just became muslim and my own family will not even talk to me, but i never let anyone stop me, let me talk to u plz, listen,plz do not fear other people fear allah, for he is the one u will have to answer to, u have to live each day second by second because u r never promise tomorrow, not even the next second, if something happen to u right now and u went in front of Allah, what would u say to him, i did not become muslim because i did not want people to look down at me, no sister he will not be happy for this, now about the mosque, u should go i think u have the wrong idea,when i went the first time everyone welcomed me,and u may say thats because i am in a different state than u but if they r real good muslims they will respect u, for who u r, not what u have did in ur past, u know the day u become muslim u go home and wash right away and all ur pass goes down the drain to, its as if u r born again, Allah forgets ur past, and noone has the right to ask u about it, no matter what u have done in ur past u r a new person, once u become muslim make sure u keep ur book clean , most of all as i said before fear Allah so much, i hope this helped u out plz , plz write me back, i am married to a muslim and he knows the religion very well so if i can not answer u i know he can help me , i hope to hear from u soon, inshaa allah




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