Hello Sisters!!!! I have something personal that has been causing me to have very sleepless nights. I have just started to study Islam, it's only been about 4 weeks. I love Islam. I have read that one of the major sins is murder, and you can not repent it, on judgement day, only Allah will make a decision. Before I have embraced Islam I was in a very abusive relationship. I have a child with this man. I got pregnant and I had an abortion. I know this is concidered murder. I feel so ashamed. I have not even told anyone about this. (I hope you sisters don't think im a horrible person). My question is am I now domed to be a loser? I know Allah is all forgiving, but I feel like I can never be pure again, I feeling a bit hopeless right now. I know this is a very personal subject and I hope I have not offened anyone, if I have I am deeply sorry. I would appreciate any replys. I am very new to Islam and do not have any Muslim friends so I have nobody to ask questions to.
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Posted 30 April 2004 - 11:31 PM
Assalaamu Alaikum,
First of All, I'd like to welcome you sister to the forum
, InshAllah you'll meet and make a lot of freinds here because all the sisters are really wonderful... 
Anyways, I read somewhere that when a person reverts to Islam, they become like a pure baby that is free of sin...So all you have to concentrate now is your way of life according to the Holy Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet S.A.W...
Well, I know I'm not much of a help, and I'm sure the other sisters will give you a better answer, InshAllah...
Until then I found this on the net that might be useful to you:
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Question :
i'm a young girl, wanting to convert to islam, for me this religion is really the truth. The problem is, that before i discovered islam, i used to live a pretty wild life, I did a lot of wrong things (if not all wrong things). I would like to know if it's possible for a girl like me to convert, and what should I do regarding my past when converting
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
In the name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
“The revelation of the Book (this Qur’aan) is from Allaah, the All Mighty, the All Knower.
The Forgiver of sin, the Acceptor of repentance, the Severe in punishment, the Bestower (of favours). Laa ilaaha illa Huwa (none has the right to be worshipped but He), to Him is the final return”[Ghaafir 40:2-3 – interpretation of the meaning]
Ibn ‘Abbaas – who was one of the companions of the Prophet of Islam (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) – narrated that some of the people of shirk (polytheism) killed and did a lot of killing, and they committed adultery and they did that a great deal, then they came to Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, “What you say and what you are calling for is good. If only you could tell us that there is any expiation for what we have done.” Then Allaah revealed the words (interpretation of the meaning):
‘Say: “O ‘Ibaadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allaah, verily, Allaah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful.
And turn in repentance and in obedience with true Faith (Islamic Monotheism) to your Lord and submit to Him (in Islam) before the torment comes upon you, (and) then you will not be helped.
And follow the best of that which is sent down to you from your Lord (i.e. this Qur’aan, do what it orders you to do and keep away from what it forbids), before the torment comes on you suddenly while you perceive not!”
Lest a person should say: “Alas, my grief that I was undutiful to Allaah (i.e. I have not done what Allaah has ordered me to do), and I was indeed among those who mocked [at the truth! i.e. Laa ilaaha illAllaah (none has the right to be worshipped but Allaah), the Qur’aan, and Muhammad and at the faithful believers]
Or (lest) he should say: “If only Allaah had guided me, I should indeed have been among the Muttaqoon (the pious).”
Or (lest) he should say when he sees the torment: “If only I had another chance (to return to the world), then I should indeed be among the Muhsinoon (good‑doers).”
Yes! Verily, there came to you My Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and you denied them, and were proud and were among the disbelievers.’[al-Zumar 39:53-59]”
‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas was a mushrik (polytheist, idol-worshipper), a sinner and an enemy of Allaah. He said: “When Allaah put the love of Islam into my heart, I came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to pledge my allegiance to him. He stretched out his hand towards me, but I said, ‘I will not pledge allegiance to you, O Messenger of Allaah, until you forgive me my previous sins.’ The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to me, ‘O ‘Amr, do you not know that Islam wipes out whatever sins came before it.’” (Narrated by Imaam Ahmad, 17159).
So flee to Allaah and know that there is nothing that you are worried about, but the solution to it is to be found in the texts quoted above. Indeed, these texts are addressed to you; they refer to your situation and contain the answer to your problem.
Your Lord is Most Merciful; He accepts repentance and forgives all sins. His Mercy encompasses all things. He calls you and all His slaves to repent and to become Muslim. He has promised you, through the words of His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), that all of your previous sins, major and minor, of whatever type, will be wiped out completely when you become Muslim, and you will start with a clean sheet, a new record of deeds that is free of bad deeds. So what are you waiting for? Why delay it any further? Hasten to enter Islam and worship your Lord, and we give you the glad tidings of a happy future and a good life in the shade of Islam. We were very happy – by Allaah – to receive your question, and we are waiting to hear good news.
Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com)
First of All, I'd like to welcome you sister to the forum
, InshAllah you'll meet and make a lot of freinds here because all the sisters are really wonderful...
Anyways, I read somewhere that when a person reverts to Islam, they become like a pure baby that is free of sin...So all you have to concentrate now is your way of life according to the Holy Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet S.A.W...
Well, I know I'm not much of a help, and I'm sure the other sisters will give you a better answer, InshAllah...
Until then I found this on the net that might be useful to you:
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Question :
i'm a young girl, wanting to convert to islam, for me this religion is really the truth. The problem is, that before i discovered islam, i used to live a pretty wild life, I did a lot of wrong things (if not all wrong things). I would like to know if it's possible for a girl like me to convert, and what should I do regarding my past when converting
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
In the name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
“The revelation of the Book (this Qur’aan) is from Allaah, the All Mighty, the All Knower.
The Forgiver of sin, the Acceptor of repentance, the Severe in punishment, the Bestower (of favours). Laa ilaaha illa Huwa (none has the right to be worshipped but He), to Him is the final return”[Ghaafir 40:2-3 – interpretation of the meaning]
Ibn ‘Abbaas – who was one of the companions of the Prophet of Islam (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) – narrated that some of the people of shirk (polytheism) killed and did a lot of killing, and they committed adultery and they did that a great deal, then they came to Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, “What you say and what you are calling for is good. If only you could tell us that there is any expiation for what we have done.” Then Allaah revealed the words (interpretation of the meaning):
‘Say: “O ‘Ibaadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allaah, verily, Allaah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful.
And turn in repentance and in obedience with true Faith (Islamic Monotheism) to your Lord and submit to Him (in Islam) before the torment comes upon you, (and) then you will not be helped.
And follow the best of that which is sent down to you from your Lord (i.e. this Qur’aan, do what it orders you to do and keep away from what it forbids), before the torment comes on you suddenly while you perceive not!”
Lest a person should say: “Alas, my grief that I was undutiful to Allaah (i.e. I have not done what Allaah has ordered me to do), and I was indeed among those who mocked [at the truth! i.e. Laa ilaaha illAllaah (none has the right to be worshipped but Allaah), the Qur’aan, and Muhammad and at the faithful believers]
Or (lest) he should say: “If only Allaah had guided me, I should indeed have been among the Muttaqoon (the pious).”
Or (lest) he should say when he sees the torment: “If only I had another chance (to return to the world), then I should indeed be among the Muhsinoon (good‑doers).”
Yes! Verily, there came to you My Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and you denied them, and were proud and were among the disbelievers.’[al-Zumar 39:53-59]”
‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas was a mushrik (polytheist, idol-worshipper), a sinner and an enemy of Allaah. He said: “When Allaah put the love of Islam into my heart, I came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to pledge my allegiance to him. He stretched out his hand towards me, but I said, ‘I will not pledge allegiance to you, O Messenger of Allaah, until you forgive me my previous sins.’ The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to me, ‘O ‘Amr, do you not know that Islam wipes out whatever sins came before it.’” (Narrated by Imaam Ahmad, 17159).
So flee to Allaah and know that there is nothing that you are worried about, but the solution to it is to be found in the texts quoted above. Indeed, these texts are addressed to you; they refer to your situation and contain the answer to your problem.
Your Lord is Most Merciful; He accepts repentance and forgives all sins. His Mercy encompasses all things. He calls you and all His slaves to repent and to become Muslim. He has promised you, through the words of His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), that all of your previous sins, major and minor, of whatever type, will be wiped out completely when you become Muslim, and you will start with a clean sheet, a new record of deeds that is free of bad deeds. So what are you waiting for? Why delay it any further? Hasten to enter Islam and worship your Lord, and we give you the glad tidings of a happy future and a good life in the shade of Islam. We were very happy – by Allaah – to receive your question, and we are waiting to hear good news.
Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com)
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Posted 01 May 2004 - 06:22 AM
Assalamu alaikum,
The companions of the Prophet (saws) did even worse that you did prior to Islam. They would wait till their daughter was 5, 6, 7 years old and then they would bury her alive!
So, if you repent, Allah forgives everything.
Umm Hanifa
The companions of the Prophet (saws) did even worse that you did prior to Islam. They would wait till their daughter was 5, 6, 7 years old and then they would bury her alive!
So, if you repent, Allah forgives everything.
Umm Hanifa
#4
Posted 01 May 2004 - 06:49 AM
Assalaamu 'alaikum,
Sister, none of us here would ever judge you or dare to think of you as a 'horrible person.' Allah is the Oft Forgiving, and insha'Allah he will forgive you if you ask for forgiveness.
You were not Muslim when this event happened, and you were in an abusive relationship. You did not know that this was a haraam act and you were under a lot of pressure when you made this decision. I only wish you had had someone to support you during such a traumatic time. :cry:
Masha'Allah, your bravery and strength in overcoming such a dark period in your life and seeking the truth of Islam is very inspiring. May Allah forgive your sins, ease your heart, and reward you for your humility.
We are always here for you to talk to, sis, insha'Allah.
Wassalaam,
Eno.
Sister, none of us here would ever judge you or dare to think of you as a 'horrible person.' Allah is the Oft Forgiving, and insha'Allah he will forgive you if you ask for forgiveness.
You were not Muslim when this event happened, and you were in an abusive relationship. You did not know that this was a haraam act and you were under a lot of pressure when you made this decision. I only wish you had had someone to support you during such a traumatic time. :cry:
Masha'Allah, your bravery and strength in overcoming such a dark period in your life and seeking the truth of Islam is very inspiring. May Allah forgive your sins, ease your heart, and reward you for your humility.
We are always here for you to talk to, sis, insha'Allah.
Wassalaam,
Eno.
#5 Guest_feto_27_8_*
Posted 01 May 2004 - 05:59 PM
Allsalam 'Alaikom:
All I wanted to say is forget every little thing you did in your life before. Now you are a completly different person . Concentrate on your future as muslim and Insa'llah Allah will forgive you .
Your sister
Feto
All I wanted to say is forget every little thing you did in your life before. Now you are a completly different person . Concentrate on your future as muslim and Insa'llah Allah will forgive you .
Your sister
Feto
#6 Guest_knowledgeseeker_*
Posted 01 May 2004 - 09:48 PM
Hello sisters!!!
Thank you so much for your replys. I feel a little bit better, but I am still a bit worried. My son's father (my abuser) tried to tell me alot about Islam, and I agreed with alot, but there was one part I did not, and this is what kept me from embracing Islam fully. My son's father was not born Muslim, but he found Islam one day and he has been trying to learn as much as he can. He is a believer, but he does the wrong things. I read a book by Muhammad Ali called "The Living Thoughts of the Prophet Muhammad." In this book there was a section called "Misconceptions of Islam." It was in this section that my ignorance was revealed, and all my reservations disappeared. I knew abortion was wrong before I did it, I was taught that in the Catholic religion, but I never believed in the Catholic religion. I had a little knowledge of some aspects of Islam before I did what I did, that's why I am still a little worried.
I am so grateful I have found this forum. It just strengthens my convictions to become a true Muslim even more. There are so many evil people in this world, it is so wonderful to know there are wonderful ones too.
Thank you so much for your replys. I feel a little bit better, but I am still a bit worried. My son's father (my abuser) tried to tell me alot about Islam, and I agreed with alot, but there was one part I did not, and this is what kept me from embracing Islam fully. My son's father was not born Muslim, but he found Islam one day and he has been trying to learn as much as he can. He is a believer, but he does the wrong things. I read a book by Muhammad Ali called "The Living Thoughts of the Prophet Muhammad." In this book there was a section called "Misconceptions of Islam." It was in this section that my ignorance was revealed, and all my reservations disappeared. I knew abortion was wrong before I did it, I was taught that in the Catholic religion, but I never believed in the Catholic religion. I had a little knowledge of some aspects of Islam before I did what I did, that's why I am still a little worried.
I am so grateful I have found this forum. It just strengthens my convictions to become a true Muslim even more. There are so many evil people in this world, it is so wonderful to know there are wonderful ones too.
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Posted 01 May 2004 - 10:50 PM
Asalamu alaikum,
sister knowledgeseeker, there is a certain method to study islam if you are interested. All of the Prophets of Allah taught Tauhid (tawheed) first and the call to Islam starts with Tauhid. We do not jump right into islamic law before building the foundation. We build on the foundation of Islam and then slowly introduce other things as we go along. I would like you to write me, so that I can help you to learn about islam and point you in the right direction regarding books and materials that are from Correct sources. I will send articles to you that are very good from various muslim scholars and some of my work and lessons. my e-mail is teacherofislam@yahoo.com. i to hear from you soon.
Kamillah
sister knowledgeseeker, there is a certain method to study islam if you are interested. All of the Prophets of Allah taught Tauhid (tawheed) first and the call to Islam starts with Tauhid. We do not jump right into islamic law before building the foundation. We build on the foundation of Islam and then slowly introduce other things as we go along. I would like you to write me, so that I can help you to learn about islam and point you in the right direction regarding books and materials that are from Correct sources. I will send articles to you that are very good from various muslim scholars and some of my work and lessons. my e-mail is teacherofislam@yahoo.com. i to hear from you soon.
Kamillah
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Posted 02 May 2004 - 01:40 AM
Assalaamu 'alaikum,
It doesn't matter if you knew or didn't know. You have repented with a sincere heart - that is all that matters.
Insha'Allah you will benefit from Sister Kamillah's classes and will be able to put this behind you and grow as the pure Muslimah you already are.
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I had a little knowledge of some aspects of Islam before I did what I did, that's why I am still a little worried.
It doesn't matter if you knew or didn't know. You have repented with a sincere heart - that is all that matters.
Insha'Allah you will benefit from Sister Kamillah's classes and will be able to put this behind you and grow as the pure Muslimah you already are.
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Posted 02 May 2004 - 09:28 AM
Assalamu Alaikum
We all have done things in our past as non muslims we would love to forget, or if we had the time over we would do things differently... hindsight is a great thing :wink:
Alhamdilullah (All praise be to Allah), Allah forgives us ALL for whatever came before islam, learn now to forgive yourself!!!! Learn more about Islam and I am sure the more you read and learn, the more you will red abot how Allah forgives us even as Muslims who sin...
Move on from your past, put it behind you where it belongs and enjoy being a freshly cleansed sin free Muslim
Take care of yourself, InshaAllah!!
Hope to read more from you soon.
Allah Hafiz
Sarah
We all have done things in our past as non muslims we would love to forget, or if we had the time over we would do things differently... hindsight is a great thing :wink:
Alhamdilullah (All praise be to Allah), Allah forgives us ALL for whatever came before islam, learn now to forgive yourself!!!! Learn more about Islam and I am sure the more you read and learn, the more you will red abot how Allah forgives us even as Muslims who sin...
Move on from your past, put it behind you where it belongs and enjoy being a freshly cleansed sin free Muslim
Take care of yourself, InshaAllah!!
Hope to read more from you soon.
Allah Hafiz
Sarah
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