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[rayofhope04]

As Salaamu alaikum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuh

dear sister Naz, because this is such a broad question and even articles can help here, inshaAllah I am moving this to the Da'yah section where I hope you will get many replies.

Zahra

[khadi1]

Assalamou aleikoum wa rhamatoullah wa barakatou,

I think one can always work on themselves and their self esteem.
But you did not say what kind of jealousy  the person you are referring to is suffering?

Because there is envy. Which is a kind of jealousy, and you should be envious of those who are better than you in religion ( i have to look for the hadith.. or someone else ?   ) this is a kind of good jealousy because it will push you to do things.
You have also  the destructive jealousy. And sometimes, it pushes people to do and say things  they regret, and worse, their jealousy can push people away from them.
Anyway, and this is only my humble opinion, I could be wrong, the kind of jealousy is destructive, because it stems from a lack of self confidence or insecurity. But I believe that once someone finds things that they are good at, things they enjoy doing, start to appreciate themselves and began to enjoy their own company, then the problem is nearly resolved.
of course, they are more types of jealousy than these and jealousy is such a complex feeling.
So sis, what kind of jealousy did you have in mind? and is the person aware that she/he is jealous ?

[gunte]

Salam Alaikum,
lets see... how do i cope with envy...
i try to make dua after each prayer for Allah to rid me of worldly envy.
Also, each time i feel envious of someone, i pray to Allah to bless that person and to give me what is best for me and also make me content with what he has provided. Alhamdulillah so far, cos even though i know a lot of pple who have more than me, i am happy with what Allah has provided for me and i accept that everybody's path in life is different.