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[Mujaahida_Fi_Sabilillaah]

Wa 'alaikumus-salaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh,

My dream wedding would be neither small nor large, but comfortably in between, with my close friends from my old Islamic centre and the Madrasah right now, and of course my family (which is big but not huge - grandparents from both sides, aunties and uncles, my granduncles, a few random other relatives here and there)!

I'd like to have it at a house rather than a big hall because I like the cozy feeling of everybody happily squished together and laughing, plus we women can de-hijaab comfortably... I want to have my hands and legs full of mehndi, and I'd love to wear a beautiful lehnga!

Other than that, all I really want is for it to be a gathering of love and laughter and the rememberance of Allah so that I can say farewell to my loved ones in the best of ways that's fun and pleasing to Allah as well  

-Zainab

[Nuur_Alhudaa]

Assalmu Alaikum

hmmm... my dream wedding wouldn't be too big, but not too small either , like sis Mujaahida_Fi_Sabilillaah said. (i don't want too much attention, that would make me nervous )

and i'd want henna obviously. in the past weddings we had for family relatives, my family would call someone who was able to do henna profesionally, and everyone else would get henna too, but the brides would be the best... obviously. it was great to watch, and it was gorgeous.

and, i'd want it to be an islamic wedding, NO Music or anything. and i'd want everyone to just enjoy themselves, and have a great time.

-Anisa

[Yunaleska]

Assalamu Alaikum,

My dream wedding, InshaAllah, is very very small. Just my parents, my wali and his wife, my husband and his parents (maybe siblings/children but that's it!) InshaAllah I'd have it at a sisters house, have lots of mendhi (I think its pretty ), and have a lovely meal after. Yummy! I already know which dress I want (the white wedding one on Islamic boutique).

InshaAllah we get what is best for us (I'm praying mine isn't huge.....)

[*UmmD*]

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullaah..

Nice topic A'ishah. Well my wedding is almost 2 years gone, so I'll tell you what my dream wedding would be in retrospect. If i could do it all over again, i would not chew gum, Id do my own make up, not wear false lashes as my own are thick and long enough without the fake ones irritating me and falling off (i ripped them off before my dh came in and was harrassing everyone for some mascara!!) Other than that I loved my wedding, not big not small, lots of guests to feed, and gorgeous clothes and jewellery i got to choose alhamdulillaah..

[sweetmuslimah]

[b] my dream wedding would be......................................
I would have a large wedding because i got loads of family
and have an islamic wedding because me and my family are ver islamic
i would have gold and brown decore
and wear our traditional dress and then a real wedding dress
and i would have my only small sister as my bride maid cuz i love her(love her to bites ) i would come to the wedding in the lastest dream car(lamzines are so last year) i would have it in a massive hall with tables that would have white roses on them and beatiful table clothes. i could go on and on well thats my dream wedding            

[*UmmD*]

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullaah

In jannah inshaAllaah sweetmuslimah .. Wouldnt have to worry about the guilt that comes with extravagance! I'd probly want a bently in Jannah - so i bet work hard to get there inshaAllaah!

[8th Paradise]

assalamu alikeum

dream wedding: me eloping with the groom (having obviously gained permission from wali to marry), off in some lush beach as we lay in a hammock drinking fruit cocktails. No stress, minmal fuss and no hassle to deal with lol.

most likely wedding: in a hall somewhere, over croweded with too many people- most who i wont know, guests fighting over food, loud music, loud noise, 1000000 eyes staring, watching and commenting on me (how i look, what im wearing, my hair, skin, etc.. ) me depressed and wanting to leave. lol.

[Mujaahida_Fi_Sabilillaah]

As-salaamu 'alaikum,

Awwwwwwwwwww, sis 8th... don't worry about it... insha'Allah it'll turn out a lot more like scenario #1 than #2!    

[MUSLIMAHSISTER]

asalamu alaykum

honestly id like a small wedding strictly girls only...i like the idea of having some1 give a lecture at ur wedding....alot of somali weddings are like that....theyre called mahadaro(sp?)  weddings....close family nd friends only....id have a girl sing using a duff onlie my friend did that for her wedding and mashallah it was great..yummy food..then everyone goes home!!


i dont like extravagant wedding....no video nd no camerca except for 1 that my sis will have so she can take a pic of me nd my mom nd brides maid but noone will see it not even my husband unless its the 1 with just me in it.....other than that no camerca...

salaamz

safiyyah

[turquoisegiraffe]

Salaam Alaikum,

Me, groom, wali, witnesses, courthouse, ktaab... khalas.  No muss, no fuss, no wasted time or money.  Bonus point: nothing that anyone could consider haram.  Why do people have to make simple things so complicated?

[8th Paradise]

wa alikeum assalam

[Why do people have to make simple things so complicated?]

because people by nature have egos. weddings are usually one of the few times for people to show off and show what families are 'made of'. The amount of ridiculous extravagances i've heard being spent on some weddings is unbelievale (like the bride and groom coming to the venue in a ferrari-rented of course, despite the fact they live in the hood and come from the housing project lol).

They cant even afford it 9/10, proabably dont even have a house to live in, but as longs as the people who went to their wedding, go away saying " oh so and so's wedding was great, they had this, that blach blah blach", then it will be considered money worth spent. Sad really.

[turquoisegiraffe]

Salaam Alaikum,

Of course there's nothing wrong with having as nice a wedding as you can afford   It's not what I personally would choose to spend that money on, but if it makes you happy, go for it.  I think what 8th Paradise was talking about was when people who really CAN'T afford it do it anyway, just because it's expected, and they want to show off.  That's very common in the Arab world, and probably elsewhere as well.

Also, oftentimes the couple can just barely afford it, so they do it at the expense of other things that they later regret.  For example, I know couples that couldn't afford second car (the wedding cost more than a new car!), had to delay children for a few extra years (I know that's controversial, it's just an example), needed the wife to work when she didn't want to to pay off the loans (a whole 'nother can of worms!), and had to rent rather than buy a house.  In hindsight, most of them ended up wishing that they'd kept that money to spend on other things.

Edited by turquoisegiraffe, 20 May 2008 - 09:35 AM.

[turquoisegiraffe]

Salaam Alaikum,

dancers and singers (duff only) ... Basically one massive party, with disco lights and everyone dancing

Hmm... I've never thought of disco lights and duff-only music going together   It sounds interesting - I'd like to see it!  

[__nOOr__]

ME N THR GROOM! lol ....n maybe parents if they want to come as well

[apassengeroflife]

salamzz
i wud like ma nikah to be held in a majid if in pakistan then Faisal masjid.I want it to be totally islamic marriage where most of all no camera man with his irritating camera is present................peace!

xxx
sara

[~*Lula*~]

Salams dear sisters..  

I had lots of fun reading these posts, lol.

WE ALL WANT TO GET MARRIED DONT WE?!

LOL.
wa salam.  
Hajer~*

[MissMe_blossom0420]

Salaam!

Oh, how I wish I could get married! But, atleast 8 more years to go!
Here's my dream wedding:

My dream wedding would be outside, in a beautiful garden, full of pansies and roses and all sorts of exotic flowers! It would be neither large or small, and I would have henna all over my hands! It would be peaceful and calm and joyful, with shady trees and singing birds. My dress, like the wedding, would be neither plain or fancy. I would have make-up, though.   Then, after the wedding, we would have a wonderful feast, then watch the sunset. After that, when my husband and I drive away, I would give him a smooch on his cheek!             

Aaah....bliss!

Love......ah....love........*snaps back into focus*,

Ah...Um...sorry.........haha....hehe......Nadia....hehe

Edited to add:

Lol...Im just ten

Edited by Blossom0420, 12 September 2008 - 01:07 AM.

[MissMe_blossom0420]

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lol!!!