plz reply here and i will send to my freindSalamu Alaikum,
Hi everybody![/b]
I'm a muslim .I have always been .I'm so miserable, suffering incredible deprivation on all levels . I can't stand it anymore;it's just beyond me . Mired in disappointment,misery and affliction for two decades . Suicide is seen as my ultimate resort for relief . Just one more waiting chance for that last spark of light/hope that may or may not come.
plz reply here and i will send to my freind
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Can’t help committing suicide
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, Sep 29 2003 08:59 PM
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#3
Posted 30 September 2003 - 09:24 AM
assalamalaikum,
i have been to the link which u gave sis,
this persons story is really full of misery
but my suggestion to this person is to stop thinking abt suicide and think abt living a life with "Hope ".INdeed Allah swt helps the person who helps himself first..
Yea,i know its easier said than Done but still....
I am suggesting this only after reading the persons views abt himself
If he is a good Person then He should have sabar and do as much astagfaar as he can .
this shows u r imaan is still fresh
Now that u dont seem to have any way left out except suicide ,then y dont u give another try ....by choosing the best way....The Way of Allah swt
Inshallah u will b a changed person then
May Allah relive u of all tensions .poverty
fiiamaanillah
Mrs Khan
i have been to the link which u gave sis,
this persons story is really full of misery
but my suggestion to this person is to stop thinking abt suicide and think abt living a life with "Hope ".INdeed Allah swt helps the person who helps himself first..
Yea,i know its easier said than Done but still....
I am suggesting this only after reading the persons views abt himself
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This is not because of me , mind you ! …I’m a good person , well educated , well disciplined, well behaved , sapient, phlegmatic, persevering , and even fairly optimistic and resilient
If he is a good Person then He should have sabar and do as much astagfaar as he can .
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People in my case would take dope and resort to excessive drinking , pornography and stuff to diffuse depression . I don’t
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this shows u r imaan is still fresh
Now that u dont seem to have any way left out except suicide ,then y dont u give another try ....by choosing the best way....The Way of Allah swt
Inshallah u will b a changed person then
May Allah relive u of all tensions .poverty
fiiamaanillah
Mrs Khan
#4
Posted 01 October 2003 - 05:21 AM
Assalaam alaikum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuh,
Suicide is haram and leads to punishment in the Hereafter. I'm not sure why this poster is posting this url in many Islamic sites and asking us to add the url to their favorites. I find this very strange. Why would they claim that they won't forgive us on the Day of Judgement if we don't help them, when they need to shake out of this or they will be in deep trouble on the Day of Judgement. If they think they will be relieved from their troubles by comitting suicide, they need to know that they will have more pain and trouble in the Hereafter than they ever experienced in this world if they commit suicide.
Question :
I am the brother who asked the question about whether it was allowed for a girl who I wanted to marry to study in university in a corrupt society. But now I have a new problem, the girl does not want to marry me any more because I'm from India and she's from pakistan and she feels that her mother will not allow us to marry and will kick her out. Does her mother have the right to stop us from getting married just because we'er from different countries? This whole situation is making me feel extremely upset. Its been about 2 weeks since it happened and I feel extremely depressed, I been constanly crying, I haven't eaten anything, I just can't get any sleep and I feel like I want to kill my self. I just can't cope with this situation any longer, what am I to do? I need help and your the only reliable source I can turn to, I am desperate for help. Please brother answer my questions, I just can't bear this pain any longer. Thank you, and any answer will be GREATLY appreciated.
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And do not kill yourselves. Surely, Allaah is Most merciful to you. And whoever commits that through aggression and injustice, We shall cast him into the Fire…" [al-Nisa' 4:29-30]
No matter what psychological pressure or extreme distress befalls him, the Muslim cannot go ahead and kill himself, because he knows that the punishment for that is Hell and a painful torment, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
"Whoever throws himself down from a mountain and kills himself, he will be in the Fire of Hell throwing himself down for ever and ever. Whoever drinks poison and kills himself will have the poison in his hand, drinking it in the Fire of Hell for ever and ever. Whoever kills himself with a piece of iron [a weapon] will have that piece of iron in his hand, stabbing himself in the stomach with it in the Fire of Hell forever and ever." (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5778).
Starving oneself to death by refusing food is also a kind of suicide and deliberately killing oneself. How can a Muslim who believes in Allaah and the Last Day think of trying to move from the suffering of this world to the suffering of the Hereafter, which is more severe and more long-lasting? No sane person would do this. And for what? For a woman, when you could always find another woman to marry, for there are many women besides this one. Moreover, circumstances may change, and they may change their minds and agree to the marriage after a while. You could look for a college or school in your country that is only for women, which your wife could join, and that would solve a part of the problem. Whatever the case, you have to seek the help of Allaah and persevere with sabr (patience).
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty)." [al-Talaaq 65:2]
"Allaah will grant after hardship, ease." [al-Talaaq 65:7]
We also suggest that you refer to the book "Alhomoom - Dealing with Worries and Stress", which is to be found on this web-site, and put into practise some of the things described therein, to calm you down and restore your equilibrium. Allaah is the One Whom We ask to relieve your distress and grief. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions, and grant them peace.
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Suicide is haram and leads to punishment in the Hereafter. I'm not sure why this poster is posting this url in many Islamic sites and asking us to add the url to their favorites. I find this very strange. Why would they claim that they won't forgive us on the Day of Judgement if we don't help them, when they need to shake out of this or they will be in deep trouble on the Day of Judgement. If they think they will be relieved from their troubles by comitting suicide, they need to know that they will have more pain and trouble in the Hereafter than they ever experienced in this world if they commit suicide.
Question :
I am the brother who asked the question about whether it was allowed for a girl who I wanted to marry to study in university in a corrupt society. But now I have a new problem, the girl does not want to marry me any more because I'm from India and she's from pakistan and she feels that her mother will not allow us to marry and will kick her out. Does her mother have the right to stop us from getting married just because we'er from different countries? This whole situation is making me feel extremely upset. Its been about 2 weeks since it happened and I feel extremely depressed, I been constanly crying, I haven't eaten anything, I just can't get any sleep and I feel like I want to kill my self. I just can't cope with this situation any longer, what am I to do? I need help and your the only reliable source I can turn to, I am desperate for help. Please brother answer my questions, I just can't bear this pain any longer. Thank you, and any answer will be GREATLY appreciated.
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And do not kill yourselves. Surely, Allaah is Most merciful to you. And whoever commits that through aggression and injustice, We shall cast him into the Fire…" [al-Nisa' 4:29-30]
No matter what psychological pressure or extreme distress befalls him, the Muslim cannot go ahead and kill himself, because he knows that the punishment for that is Hell and a painful torment, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
"Whoever throws himself down from a mountain and kills himself, he will be in the Fire of Hell throwing himself down for ever and ever. Whoever drinks poison and kills himself will have the poison in his hand, drinking it in the Fire of Hell for ever and ever. Whoever kills himself with a piece of iron [a weapon] will have that piece of iron in his hand, stabbing himself in the stomach with it in the Fire of Hell forever and ever." (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5778).
Starving oneself to death by refusing food is also a kind of suicide and deliberately killing oneself. How can a Muslim who believes in Allaah and the Last Day think of trying to move from the suffering of this world to the suffering of the Hereafter, which is more severe and more long-lasting? No sane person would do this. And for what? For a woman, when you could always find another woman to marry, for there are many women besides this one. Moreover, circumstances may change, and they may change their minds and agree to the marriage after a while. You could look for a college or school in your country that is only for women, which your wife could join, and that would solve a part of the problem. Whatever the case, you have to seek the help of Allaah and persevere with sabr (patience).
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty)." [al-Talaaq 65:2]
"Allaah will grant after hardship, ease." [al-Talaaq 65:7]
We also suggest that you refer to the book "Alhomoom - Dealing with Worries and Stress", which is to be found on this web-site, and put into practise some of the things described therein, to calm you down and restore your equilibrium. Allaah is the One Whom We ask to relieve your distress and grief. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions, and grant them peace.
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Posted 02 October 2003 - 02:42 AM
Asalam Alaikum,
Insha-Allah whoever you are I hope that you Do Not Commit Suicide Insha-Allah. The best advice I can give you is Pray to Allah (SWA) to Help you out of your circumstances and have Full Faith in Allah (SWA) that he will help you. Sometimes in life we are put through test and trails for whatever reason Allah Knows Best.
The second thing I hope that you will seek medical help, by a very good Doctor. If you can not pay for it call your local nurseline, hospital or welfare agency to help you see a doctor free of charge. By the way if you have suicide in your mind you may check yourself into a hospital.
The state that you are in, I do not think any amount of money in the world will really help you. The Only one that can help is Allah (swa).
InshaAllah
kamillah
Insha-Allah whoever you are I hope that you Do Not Commit Suicide Insha-Allah. The best advice I can give you is Pray to Allah (SWA) to Help you out of your circumstances and have Full Faith in Allah (SWA) that he will help you. Sometimes in life we are put through test and trails for whatever reason Allah Knows Best.
The second thing I hope that you will seek medical help, by a very good Doctor. If you can not pay for it call your local nurseline, hospital or welfare agency to help you see a doctor free of charge. By the way if you have suicide in your mind you may check yourself into a hospital.
The state that you are in, I do not think any amount of money in the world will really help you. The Only one that can help is Allah (swa).
InshaAllah
kamillah
#8
Posted 03 October 2003 - 01:36 PM
assalaam alaikum
Question :
A married woman commits adultery, then she repented but the guilt of the act is haunting her. She is now thinking about suicide. What should be done and what is your advice?
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
Ibn Mas'ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: "The believer sees his sin as a mountain beneath which he is sitting and which he fears may fall down upon him. The rebellious person sees his sin as a fly which passes in front of his nose and he swats it away…" (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6308)
This woman's overwhelming sense of the burden of her sin is a sign of faith. We offer her the following advice:
She should examine her divorce from her first husband to make sure that it is sound according to sharee'ah (Islamic law), whether it took the form of talaaq (male-instigated divorce) or khul' (female-instigated divorce).
She should make sure that her marriage contract to the second man is also sound, because a marriage between two people guilty of adultery is not valid unless they have repented (see questions # 33); if the contract is found not to be valid, it must be repeated.
If this woman is sincere in her repentance towards Allaah, regrets what she did and is determined never to do it again, Allaah will forgive all her sins, no matter how great they were, so she should not despair of the mercy of Allaah, for no one despairs of Allaah's Mercy, except the people who disbelieve, and who despairs of the mercy of his Lord except those who are astray?
She should hasten to do many good deeds, to expiate for her sin, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): "And perform al-salaat (the prayer) at the two ends of the day and in some hours of the night. Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds…" [Hud 11:114]
She should resume a pure Islamic life, based on purity and chastity. Suicide is not a solution at all, as it is one of the most grievous of major sins, and will only increase the punishment of the one who does it. The Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Whoever throws himself down from a high mountain and kills himself will be throwing himself down from a mountain in the Fire of Hell for all eternity. Whoever takes poison and kills himself will be taking poison in the Fire of Hell for all eternity. Whoever kills himself with a weapon (literally, iron) will be holding it in his hand and stabbing himself in the stomach in the Fire of Hell for all eternity. (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 5778)
We ask Allaah to help this woman to repent sincerely, to forgive her sins and to include her in His Mercy, for He is the All-hearing Who answers prayers.
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Question :
A married woman commits adultery, then she repented but the guilt of the act is haunting her. She is now thinking about suicide. What should be done and what is your advice?
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
Ibn Mas'ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: "The believer sees his sin as a mountain beneath which he is sitting and which he fears may fall down upon him. The rebellious person sees his sin as a fly which passes in front of his nose and he swats it away…" (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6308)
This woman's overwhelming sense of the burden of her sin is a sign of faith. We offer her the following advice:
She should examine her divorce from her first husband to make sure that it is sound according to sharee'ah (Islamic law), whether it took the form of talaaq (male-instigated divorce) or khul' (female-instigated divorce).
She should make sure that her marriage contract to the second man is also sound, because a marriage between two people guilty of adultery is not valid unless they have repented (see questions # 33); if the contract is found not to be valid, it must be repeated.
If this woman is sincere in her repentance towards Allaah, regrets what she did and is determined never to do it again, Allaah will forgive all her sins, no matter how great they were, so she should not despair of the mercy of Allaah, for no one despairs of Allaah's Mercy, except the people who disbelieve, and who despairs of the mercy of his Lord except those who are astray?
She should hasten to do many good deeds, to expiate for her sin, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): "And perform al-salaat (the prayer) at the two ends of the day and in some hours of the night. Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds…" [Hud 11:114]
She should resume a pure Islamic life, based on purity and chastity. Suicide is not a solution at all, as it is one of the most grievous of major sins, and will only increase the punishment of the one who does it. The Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Whoever throws himself down from a high mountain and kills himself will be throwing himself down from a mountain in the Fire of Hell for all eternity. Whoever takes poison and kills himself will be taking poison in the Fire of Hell for all eternity. Whoever kills himself with a weapon (literally, iron) will be holding it in his hand and stabbing himself in the stomach in the Fire of Hell for all eternity. (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 5778)
We ask Allaah to help this woman to repent sincerely, to forgive her sins and to include her in His Mercy, for He is the All-hearing Who answers prayers.
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