Asalam Alikom..
I was wondering if this was true or false :
Marriage is forbidden (haram) to a man, according to the Hanafi school, if he does not possess the means to maintain his wife and children or if he suffers from an illness, serious enough to affect his wife and progeny.
It looks debateable.. and Im really unsure if its correct or not, because the website I got it at isnt 100% sunni, and I want all my information 100% sunnah.. I like to follow the ways that our prophet taught us.. I am against bid'ah and adding removing stuff from the religion.. so I just wnt to make sure this was true or not..
JAK
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Is this true or false information?
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, Oct 16 2004 01:23 AM
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#2
Posted 16 October 2004 - 04:04 PM
Salam alikom
She wants to marry a man who has a contagious disease
Question :
What do you suggest a muslimah do if she wants to get married to someone who has herpes? His religoin and character is just, but he made that mistake at his teens, almost 20 years ago, he repented and never made the same mistake again. Will Allah protect me if I marry him for good islamic reasons and stay obedient to Allah?.
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
It states in sharee’ah that the Muslim should not expose himself to harm.
That includes mixing with a person who has a contagious disease, especially if that disease is serious and chronic, such as herpes.
The rulings of sharee’ah are addressed to everyone, sick and healthy alike.
With regard to the one who is sick, Muslim (2221) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The owner of sick camels should not bring them to the healthy ones” – lest the disease be transmitted to the healthy ones.
With regard to the one who is healthy, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Flee from the leper as you would flee from a lion.” Narrated by Ahmad, 9429; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 7530.
Leprosy is a well-known contagious disease – we ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound.
Muslim (2231) narrated from ‘Amr ibn al-Shareed that his father said: Among the delegation from Thaqeef there was a leper. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) sent word to him saying: “We have accepted your oath of allegiance; go back.”
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Miftaah Daar al-Sa’aadah (2/272):
He sent word to that leper accepting his oath of allegiance so as to establish the shar’i principle of avoiding the causes of harmful and hateful things, because a person should not expose himself to the causes of harm.
Ibn al-Qayyim said in Zaad al-Ma’aad (4/147):
Chapter on the guidance of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) on avoiding contagious diseases and his advice to healthy people to avoid those who have such diseases. Then he quoted the ahaadeeth mentioned above.
Your wish to marry this man who has herpes may be influenced by emotion, and you think that you are being patient and forbearing, then if disaster strikes you will regret it when regret will be of no benefit. There is nothing to compare to good health.
Our advice to you is not to marry this person.
We ask Allaah to bless you with a righteous husband who will help you in your religious affairs.
And Allaah knows best.
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She wants to marry a man who has a contagious disease
Question :
What do you suggest a muslimah do if she wants to get married to someone who has herpes? His religoin and character is just, but he made that mistake at his teens, almost 20 years ago, he repented and never made the same mistake again. Will Allah protect me if I marry him for good islamic reasons and stay obedient to Allah?.
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
It states in sharee’ah that the Muslim should not expose himself to harm.
That includes mixing with a person who has a contagious disease, especially if that disease is serious and chronic, such as herpes.
The rulings of sharee’ah are addressed to everyone, sick and healthy alike.
With regard to the one who is sick, Muslim (2221) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The owner of sick camels should not bring them to the healthy ones” – lest the disease be transmitted to the healthy ones.
With regard to the one who is healthy, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Flee from the leper as you would flee from a lion.” Narrated by Ahmad, 9429; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 7530.
Leprosy is a well-known contagious disease – we ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound.
Muslim (2231) narrated from ‘Amr ibn al-Shareed that his father said: Among the delegation from Thaqeef there was a leper. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) sent word to him saying: “We have accepted your oath of allegiance; go back.”
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Miftaah Daar al-Sa’aadah (2/272):
He sent word to that leper accepting his oath of allegiance so as to establish the shar’i principle of avoiding the causes of harmful and hateful things, because a person should not expose himself to the causes of harm.
Ibn al-Qayyim said in Zaad al-Ma’aad (4/147):
Chapter on the guidance of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) on avoiding contagious diseases and his advice to healthy people to avoid those who have such diseases. Then he quoted the ahaadeeth mentioned above.
Your wish to marry this man who has herpes may be influenced by emotion, and you think that you are being patient and forbearing, then if disaster strikes you will regret it when regret will be of no benefit. There is nothing to compare to good health.
Our advice to you is not to marry this person.
We ask Allaah to bless you with a righteous husband who will help you in your religious affairs.
And Allaah knows best.
Islam Q&A (www.islam-qa.com)
#3
Posted 16 October 2004 - 04:07 PM
Salam alikom
Question :
A men, who I think is a very good muslim and Allah knows the best, has asked for my hand in marriage. I love him very much but my parents disapprove of this marriage for the following reasons. They think I am too young. They think that he (we) will not be able to support ourselves since both of us are students. They want me to finish school (i am in my last year of high school) and maybe even finish university before getting married for they think that is i get married i will not complete my studies. Please advise me on what i should do and what right i have in this.
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah mercy on him) was asked a similar question and said:
The ruling on that is that it is contrary to the command of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry [your daughter or female relative under your care] to him.” Undoubtedly your father’s preventing you from marrying one who is suitable is something that is haraam. Marriage is more important than study, and it does not mean that you cannot study, because the two can be combined. What I advise my brothers who are the guardians of women to do, is to let them complete their studies; a woman may stipulate as a condition of her marriage that she be able to continue studying until her studies are complete.
Fataawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah, 2/704-705.
Secondly:
With regard to what you mention about the situation of the one who has proposed marriage and that he is still a student, being a student is not regarded as an impediment to marriage if he can afford to get married and to spend on his wife on a reasonable basis.
But if his being a student means that he cannot afford to get married and spend on his wife – apart from the unreasonable demands that some families make in the conditions that they stipulate – this is addressed by the words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning):
“And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allaah enriches them of His Bounty”
[al-Noor 24:33]
Al-Qurtubi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: In this verse, Allaah commands everyone who is unable to get married and cannot find any means of doing so to keep himself chaste, because the most common obstacle to marriage is lack of money. So Allaah promises independence of means by His bounty, so that He will provide what one needs to get married or to find a woman who will accept a small mahr, or else remove from him the desire to marry.” Tafseer al-Qurtubi, 12/242
It should be noted that the mahr and maintenance are the rights of the woman, not of her guardians. She has the right to agree to a little and to marry one whom she knows is poor, but it has to be pointed out that many woman may agree to marry a man even though he is poor when he proposes to her, then shortly after marriage the woman may start to complain, and that leads to arguments and divorce. This should be taken into consideration.
Thirdly:
We advise families and guardians not to be an obstacle to keeping their daughters and female relatives chaste because of the unreasonable conditions that they stipulate regarding spending on the basis that they want to be reassured about their daughters’ future. This puts off the men who want to marry them, which leads to them being left on the shelf and the evils that result from that, especially nowadays when fitnah (temptation) is so widespread. Thus they harm themselves and their daughters when their intention is to do good.
We ask Allaah to set the affairs of the Muslims straight.
And Allaah knows best.
Islam Q&A (www.islam-qa.com)
Question :
A men, who I think is a very good muslim and Allah knows the best, has asked for my hand in marriage. I love him very much but my parents disapprove of this marriage for the following reasons. They think I am too young. They think that he (we) will not be able to support ourselves since both of us are students. They want me to finish school (i am in my last year of high school) and maybe even finish university before getting married for they think that is i get married i will not complete my studies. Please advise me on what i should do and what right i have in this.
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah mercy on him) was asked a similar question and said:
The ruling on that is that it is contrary to the command of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry [your daughter or female relative under your care] to him.” Undoubtedly your father’s preventing you from marrying one who is suitable is something that is haraam. Marriage is more important than study, and it does not mean that you cannot study, because the two can be combined. What I advise my brothers who are the guardians of women to do, is to let them complete their studies; a woman may stipulate as a condition of her marriage that she be able to continue studying until her studies are complete.
Fataawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah, 2/704-705.
Secondly:
With regard to what you mention about the situation of the one who has proposed marriage and that he is still a student, being a student is not regarded as an impediment to marriage if he can afford to get married and to spend on his wife on a reasonable basis.
But if his being a student means that he cannot afford to get married and spend on his wife – apart from the unreasonable demands that some families make in the conditions that they stipulate – this is addressed by the words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning):
“And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allaah enriches them of His Bounty”
[al-Noor 24:33]
Al-Qurtubi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: In this verse, Allaah commands everyone who is unable to get married and cannot find any means of doing so to keep himself chaste, because the most common obstacle to marriage is lack of money. So Allaah promises independence of means by His bounty, so that He will provide what one needs to get married or to find a woman who will accept a small mahr, or else remove from him the desire to marry.” Tafseer al-Qurtubi, 12/242
It should be noted that the mahr and maintenance are the rights of the woman, not of her guardians. She has the right to agree to a little and to marry one whom she knows is poor, but it has to be pointed out that many woman may agree to marry a man even though he is poor when he proposes to her, then shortly after marriage the woman may start to complain, and that leads to arguments and divorce. This should be taken into consideration.
Thirdly:
We advise families and guardians not to be an obstacle to keeping their daughters and female relatives chaste because of the unreasonable conditions that they stipulate regarding spending on the basis that they want to be reassured about their daughters’ future. This puts off the men who want to marry them, which leads to them being left on the shelf and the evils that result from that, especially nowadays when fitnah (temptation) is so widespread. Thus they harm themselves and their daughters when their intention is to do good.
We ask Allaah to set the affairs of the Muslims straight.
And Allaah knows best.
Islam Q&A (www.islam-qa.com)
#5
Posted 21 October 2004 - 01:56 PM
Asalamu Alaikum,
That is a very interesting ruling concerning someone with contagious disease. I am surprised to hear the answer, cuz I imagine there are many people with disease and essentially this ruling states they should never marry. (Not complaining, it's just interesting to learn.)
It leads me to some questions, out of curiosity.
What if the herpes is herpes simplex I, the kind that appears as cold sores on the mouth for example. (Herpes on your mouth can be spread to other areas of your own body and other people, including private areas, through direct exposure.)
Can two people who suffer the same contagious disease marry one another provided whatever the disease is isn't likely to make the other person worse through new exposure?
Very interesting, thanks for the info!
That is a very interesting ruling concerning someone with contagious disease. I am surprised to hear the answer, cuz I imagine there are many people with disease and essentially this ruling states they should never marry. (Not complaining, it's just interesting to learn.)
It leads me to some questions, out of curiosity.
What if the herpes is herpes simplex I, the kind that appears as cold sores on the mouth for example. (Herpes on your mouth can be spread to other areas of your own body and other people, including private areas, through direct exposure.)
Can two people who suffer the same contagious disease marry one another provided whatever the disease is isn't likely to make the other person worse through new exposure?
Very interesting, thanks for the info!
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