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I am living in the beloved city of our Holy Prophet ( Salalho Allayhi Wa Salam ) since 13 or so years.I am a muslum convert and have a daughter 22 from before Islam who I raised a muslum here with myself and my husband who is not her father . I did my best with her in regaurds to her deen.
Anyway I allowed her to get married (well nearly I forced her to )to a brother I prceived rightous. Things di'nt work out well and ended in a devorise.May Allah merci them both.
As it turned out the marriage was deemed semi by the court in Madina due to the way it was conducted and the lack of legal Wali.She has none and the one who acted as one was not legal for her,so the sheik in the court deemed it semi and asked her if she wanted it to be legal.She refused and asked to be released;evan though she was pregnut .The husband ask for his mahr and the baby.But the judge said instead of returning the mahr (which was a very small amount) that my daughter receives no maitance for her pregancy and no mainance for raiseing the infant.It was agreed and the marriage ended.
Now my daughter has a son and the only income she get is my husaban paying for their needs (remembber he is not her father)Anyway my daughter never finished school and wants to so she can take care of herself and son.But she is not a citizen here and so cannot go to university here. My non muslum adobtive family have offered to pay her way threw school and have her live with them in the U.S.A.
Atfirst I agreed as I was afraid for my daughter I evan let her go.But I soon realized I was wrong in allowing her to do so ! I knew from the first it was wrong but she really was angry at me and fighting with me everyday.The fitna between us became a mountain until I said yes just to solve the issues at hand. From that time I felt I sold my deen and the tears inside nener slowed.
she went with her son and was gone 9 months.In that 9 months I insisted she return as soon as possible and she agred that her only aim was education and that she would come back to Madina when she finished.
Then the unthinkable happened the father of the baby went to the Kafr courts to prevent my daughter from returning home to madina.( As he was expidited to usa for his connections to the Al-Qia`da .) And he is a us citizen.But he was a student of Sha`riah and the devorise and agreements were made in Islamic court.
The court in the USA alloud my daughter to come here to renew her visa and visit me but said she must return. :evil: :evil: :twisted: :twisted:
How shall I respect this order when she was never married or devorised to the brother in the USA .He married her in KSA,and Devorised her in KSA.And I her only islamic family lives in the KSA and she has lived here in Madina sinse she was 9 years old .????
DO I HAVE TO HONOR THE ORDER MADE IN THE USA OR DO I HONOR THE ISLAMIC COURT ?
Then I want to ask am I right or wrong to tell her she should not return back to the USA ? ,because I was wrong to allow her to go in the first place,also because I am upset that the usa is attacking the Isalamic countries and beleives and morals and feel that going there is saying I support the kafr ,while I do not. ! Plus Now they allow gay marriage ect.ect. and lastly I fear the father will hurt my daughter by kidnaping the baby ,he did once already the same week he was released from his jail charges it was only 3 days but the baby is breast fead and it was very sad
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What shall I do ? What rights dose my daughter have in this matter and what dose her babies father have ? My heart tells me to not allow her to go back to usa but I want to do what Allah will be pleased with I never want to sell my religon for the pleasure of my kids or anyone else again.
Please tell me what to do/tell her what to do. :?:
Thankyou, Asalam Wali Kom
A Fearful Mother
